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How the fuck did you come up with that? Thats like saying if a man likes to spank his girl on the ass in the bedroom "than it is all expected and should come as no surprise" if he beats her up.
Seriously, what the fuck are you on about? She was considering experimenting WITH her partner. The closest truth your statement could hold is if she decided to include Eric in her threesome. Otherwise you're making wild assumptions you have no valid reason to make.
Seriously, what the fuck are you on about? She was considering experimenting WITH her partner. The closest truth your statement could hold is if she decided to include Eric in her threesome. Otherwise you're making wild assumptions you have no valid reason to make.
Experimenting a partner with another partner or sharing a partner its the same shit - low self-esteem. You have no respect for yourself. I don't know where you come from and what your values are but thats how I see it. Consequently, if a person has no self-respect for herself than why should it come as surprise if she'll have a sex with some random guy he meets.
Being open enough about ones sexual fantasies means they have low self esteem? LOL. Actually I think you'll find it means they are confident enough with who they are to be open with one another and others.
I think you're just a prude or jealous that someone is stable enough in their lives and relationships to be open while you keep your fantasies pent up inside and unfulfilled.
I think you're just a prude or jealous that someone is stable enough in their lives and relationships to be open while you keep your fantasies pent up inside and unfulfilled.
There are limits to being ''open'' in relationship. I can see being open talking about all sorts of things. But to go as far as sharing your parter with another man is just too open. What could possibly happen worse than this? I can't think of anything. So you reached your limit and exceeded. Like i said, It again comes back to question of value and self respect.
Would you share your girl with another man? No because you would find that disgusting. Its not because you are not ''open'' enough but because you would think you crossed the boundaries, exceeded your sexual fantasies, you exceeded your limitations.
Would you share your girl with another man? No because you would find that disgusting. Its not because you are not ''open'' enough but because you would think you crossed the boundaries, exceeded your sexual fantasies, you exceeded your limitations.
Maybe that's just how his culture/life taught him.
Maybe what he said is based on his experience or it lays somewhere deep in his psychic after something that happened to him in the past?
And thus he is not an idiot but has different thoughts on what you guys tell him and he can't accept it.
That's just my theory tho
Maybe what he said is based on his experience or it lays somewhere deep in his psychic after something that happened to him in the past?
And thus he is not an idiot but has different thoughts on what you guys tell him and he can't accept it.
That's just my theory tho
you reap what you sow. when you lie to people to create an identity for yourself instead of actually doing then it will always come full circle. what i find funny is that in this very thread eric lied yet again. take some self ownership, eric.
with respect to the prospect of sharing one's partner under the guise of experimentation or being open minded, it's more self defeating behavior. try it out and i'll bet you that a) the relationship wasn't ever that stable to begin with and b) it doesn't last much longer after your little fantasy has been fulfilled.
people can live with their heads in the clouds all day but they shouldn't be so surprised when reality kicks their asses. this actually applies well to both subjects - sad eric and sexytime.
with respect to the prospect of sharing one's partner under the guise of experimentation or being open minded, it's more self defeating behavior. try it out and i'll bet you that a) the relationship wasn't ever that stable to begin with and b) it doesn't last much longer after your little fantasy has been fulfilled.
people can live with their heads in the clouds all day but they shouldn't be so surprised when reality kicks their asses. this actually applies well to both subjects - sad eric and sexytime.
I'm not talking about Eric right now, I'm just gonna say something more like in general. For you, crittaz, and everybody else out there who might one day find themselves in a position where someone is complaining about a depression.
That's the worst advice you can give. "Think positive". The problem with depressions is that your body produces intoxicants that pour into your blood stream, affecting the processes in your mind, leading you right into negative thought cycles and keeping you there. Most depressions are irrational - like anxiety, panic or phobias. If a family member dies, that's one thing, but does anyone have mental health statistical numbers in their hand? I don't right now, but am I taking it way too far saying one in four people are depressed in the states? Either way, when I did see them I actually said out loud, "wow". Since the world's population just keeps growing I can't imagine it's a bunch of people dying, so I am making the assumption that most depressions are irrational.
The problem with irrational emotions is that regardless of your awareness of the irrationality, the feeling still is very real. To a person suffering from depressions or anxiety or indecisiveness or what have you, condescendingly throwing out a "just think positively" out there does more harm than good. Really. If it were that simple, no one would suffer from depressions.
The idea is to do what makes the person realize for him or herself what their actual problems are thinking it was their idea. Some times, that happens by dumb luck. Some times, people do not see straight and need guidance. Patronizing achieves the opposite as it can spawn a multiple of negative associations for the receiver. Feeling inferior, feeling rage based on an assumption that you feel superior, failure to understand, confusion. Furthermore, it helps nothing, because like I said, if that's all everybody who's depressed needs to hear, the problem would be non-existent.
By the way, it's not like I'm saying you (crittaz) implied anything and I know you just spoke your mind from your point of view. These are just some thoughts I thought was proper to air here.
That's the worst advice you can give. "Think positive". The problem with depressions is that your body produces intoxicants that pour into your blood stream, affecting the processes in your mind, leading you right into negative thought cycles and keeping you there. Most depressions are irrational - like anxiety, panic or phobias. If a family member dies, that's one thing, but does anyone have mental health statistical numbers in their hand? I don't right now, but am I taking it way too far saying one in four people are depressed in the states? Either way, when I did see them I actually said out loud, "wow". Since the world's population just keeps growing I can't imagine it's a bunch of people dying, so I am making the assumption that most depressions are irrational.
The problem with irrational emotions is that regardless of your awareness of the irrationality, the feeling still is very real. To a person suffering from depressions or anxiety or indecisiveness or what have you, condescendingly throwing out a "just think positively" out there does more harm than good. Really. If it were that simple, no one would suffer from depressions.
The idea is to do what makes the person realize for him or herself what their actual problems are thinking it was their idea. Some times, that happens by dumb luck. Some times, people do not see straight and need guidance. Patronizing achieves the opposite as it can spawn a multiple of negative associations for the receiver. Feeling inferior, feeling rage based on an assumption that you feel superior, failure to understand, confusion. Furthermore, it helps nothing, because like I said, if that's all everybody who's depressed needs to hear, the problem would be non-existent.
By the way, it's not like I'm saying you (crittaz) implied anything and I know you just spoke your mind from your point of view. These are just some thoughts I thought was proper to air here.
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